What Is Acceptance?

Posted by Gregg Korrol on May 16, 2018 4:28:25 PM

I’m often asked what does it mean to accept things. Does it mean disregard your feelings? Does it mean be a doormat for whatever people do and say? Does it mean to just take whatever sh*t is thrown your way?

NO! Not at all. Acceptance is not about any of these things listed above. Acceptance is about seeing things as they are, deciding on a perspective, making a decision, and then taking action.

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Notice I said, “Deciding on a perspective.” When something occurs, most people just react. Reaction is what gets people in trouble or causes people to do or say things they regret. When you are present and see the situation as it is (accept), you can pause and decide what the comment means to you, then take action to take control of the situation. 

An example is when someone says something offensive to you. A person who does not accept, is reactive and quickly says something back to attack. A person who accepts, first hears the comment, and then takes a moment to decide what the person/comment really means. A person who can accept, knows the person speaking is doing so out of frustration or a need not being met. They know the comment made has nothing to do with them. They are able to then decide what response might yield the best outcome. Perhaps they respond with a joke and bring humor into the mix, perhaps they ask the person why they would say that, perhaps they just smile and let the comment bounce off them like Superman with a bullet.

Which of these two people are more powerful? The one who reacts and is like a dog being pulled on a leash, or the one who makes a choice about their next step? I thin the answer is obvious. Take steps to become more powerful and create the journey you want in your life by accepting what is.

What strategies to do you use to become more present? I would love to know, comment below!

Topics: Positivity, Relationships, Personal Coach, Life Coaching

Do You Enjoy Hurting Others or Allowing Others to Hurt You?

Posted by Gregg Korrol on May 1, 2018 4:13:04 PM

Odd question, right? The reason I ask is because I noticed how much people complain. Do you have any idea what happens within your body when you’re complaining? 

With any emotion, your body releases chemicals that are either lifting you up (ex: when you exercise or are happy) or putting you down and essentially poisoning you (ex: fear, anger, hate, complaints).  Complaints begin with a negative thought. You think about something, and it stirs up certain emotions (anger, frustration, etc). Once you start spending time focusing on those feelings, the body releases extra cortisol, which activates your “fight or flight system”, and puts you at risk for high cholesterol, diabetes, heart disease, obesity, and strokes.

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Be mindful, the complaint is only the endgame of the thought and the feelings that you’ve already created within yourself. Once you complain, you’re actually starting to reinforce that feeling and encourage it. You then put it out into the world, which affects other people and how they’re feeling (think of how you want to get away from someone who complains a lot).

So in essence what you’re doing by complaining is both hurting yourself and hurting other people. Do you see yourself as a person that likes to harm yourself and others? If not, take steps to shut those negative thoughts down and stop complaining.

3 Quick Tips to Stop Complaining (or stop someone else from complaining)

  1. Refocus your thoughts on something else (or refocus the other person).
  2. Do any type of exercise that exerts your body and releases endorphins.
  3. Take a few deep breaths and take a walk for 5 minutes (step outside, etc)

What solutions do you have to stop yourself from complaining or stop someone else? Please share below.

 

Topics: Positivity, Relationships, Mindfulness, Life Coaching

You’re In A Weird Mood! Or Am I?

Posted by Gregg Korrol on Apr 27, 2018 3:23:52 PM

Have you ever had one of those days when you interact with people and start to notice more than one of them seems to be in a strange mood? They seem short, distant, or not being their usual selves?

Recently, when I have noticed this, I pause and collect myself. While I seem to notice their actions, I have come to realize more than likely, it is not them that’s acting differently…it’s me.

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If we are to truly believe that we create our world through our thoughts, words and actions, then we also must take 100% responsibility for what happens around us. This also means that others reflect us, or are a reflection of what we are experiencing within.

Like a fish doesn’t know it is swimming in water…

When we are in a mood, or are not feeling ourselves, there are times when we don’t even notice it. You can however notice it by observing how others are acting around you. 

When this happens…

  • Pause - Take notice of those around you.
  • Acknowledge - Be aware you may be exuding an energy that is effecting others.
  • Breathe - Place both your hands on your heart, and take a few deep breaths into your heart.
  • Observe - Become present by observing things around you. Sounds, sights, etc.
  • Continue - After taking these few important steps, continue about your day and see how others act and how you feel. You will notice a difference.

People who are responsible in life don’t point fingers. They ask themselves, "How have I contributed to this situation?". By doing this, you'll find power, and you'll find peace.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Topics: Positivity, Relationships, Life Coaching

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