Happy & Healthy Relationships Are Only Possible If You're Willing To Be Vulnerable

Posted by Gregg Korrol on Nov 2, 2018 5:46:58 PM
Relationships are very hard because you have to be vulnerable. When people enter a relationship with their defenses up, not only do they not allow the other person to get to know them, but they also don’t give their all due to their fear. The result is a failed relationship and a reinforced belief that the right person doesn’t exist.

Relationships are possible only when you drop your defenses. 
 
Four Key Strategies for Being Open in a Relationship are:
 
1) Remember that the person you are entering the relationship with is not your past relationships. This is a different person. While you may have been hurt before, it wasn’t by this person. 
 
2) Remember you are not perfect either. Like every other person, you have your awesome side, and your faults. The other person deserves a chance, just like they are taking a chance on you.
 
3) Remember people don't have the same definitions. In other words, what you don't like about yourself, someone may not care about, or may even find endearing.  
 
4) Remember the other person is just as scared as you. If you open up to them, it allows them the opportunity to do the same for you.
 
Ultimately, if your goal is to be in a relationship, you have to take a risk. Every relationship has its ups and downs, and like everything else you try in life, rarely do you get it right the first time. You have to be okay with some pain if you want to have a lot of pleasure. More importantly, perhaps you will have some fun and learn some thing along the way.

 

Topics: Personal Coach, Relationships, Positivity

Do You Have What It Takes to Love Someone?

Posted by Gregg Korrol on Oct 16, 2018 4:50:23 PM

We have all been hurt by people we love. As that hurt grows, we build walls to protect ourselves. So imagine laying a brick for each time you’ve been hurt. Eventually you will succeed at building a wall big enough to protect yourself from the pain of others. I can visualize a person standing and looking up at this great big wall, arms folded, smiling, thinking, “I did it!”

Do you see the problem here?

The wall you built to protect yourself is the same wall that is now your prison and keeps love away from you.

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In order to truly love someone, you have to love someone for who they are, not who you want them to be. That doesn’t mean you have to like everything they do. It means you have to accept that they are going to make mistakes and yes sometimes you will get hurt as a result.

So whether you are in a relationship or seeking one, start removing the bricks one by one.

Brick removal secrets: not criticizing, not telling the other person they are wrong, supporting the other person when they mess up, giving extra hugs (even if you don’t feel like it), listening to the other person without thinking about your response, and being present for them.

What are your brick removal secrets in your relationship? Comment below.

 

Topics: Personal Coach, Relationships, Positivity

Parenting is Shared Not Equal

Posted by Gregg Korrol on Oct 9, 2018 4:43:05 PM

As much as we would love to say parents are equal, we are not. My wife reminded me of this recently during a discussion and I believe she is right.

While men and women may share the responsibility of parenting, the feeling and connection isn’t equal as the baby is an extension of the woman.

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Think about it this way.  If someone gets hurt, you are (hopefully) going to sympathize with them and feel for them, but you’re not going to feel exactly what they’re feeling because it’s not your body. A baby is a part of a woman’s body. There’s a direct connection as the baby grew inside her and came out of her, hence it’s a more direct connection that she’s going to feel than a man would.

What a man can do to be even more supportive is spend time understanding her journey and feelings as a mother- most specifically the burden of responsibility. Men must learn how to support her in addition to the baby and give her the freedom to have some time as a person, not just a mother.

One excellent strategy is learning how to take things “off her plate.” In other words, what is one thing you can do that she doesn’t have to, so that she can reclaim that time for herself as her own person? Comment below…



Topics: Relationships, Parenthood, Personal Coach

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