The Benefits of Positive Thinking

Posted by Gregg Korrol on Nov 7, 2018 4:14:10 PM
Positive thinking is  about choice and the desire to feel good through your life. All thinking and decisions are choice. We have the power of choosing how to perceive a situation and from the perception, we then decide how to act. 
 
When an event occurs, we immediately ask ourselves the question, “What does this mean?” Our thinking is layered by our overarching bias towards or against something. So for example, a stranger can give you flowers and your personal story begins to dictate how you will think. You may think, “That’s weird , what does he want from me? Or you may think, “That was very kind of him.” 
 
The question you ask brings about a feeling. The “that’s weird” thought brings about a feeling of fear stemming from distrust, whereas the “kind” comment brings a more pleasant feeling reinforcing a belief in the kindness of strangers. Neither one of thee thoughts are wrong or right, but they do lead to a certain feeling you’ll have as an outcome, which begs the question, ‘How do you want to feel as you go through your day?’
 
The power of positive thinking and choosing to look at what’s good about a situation allows for a person to have more positive feelings throughout the day.  Grant it you can have a positive feeling of “that was nice” and the person really did want something from you, however the person who is thinking more positively is not as effected emotionally by the stranger’s “ask” as the person who was more distrustful. Think about it this way, the person starting with a negative perspective is then adding another negative to their belief (I don’t trust him and he wants something). The positive thinker is starting from a positive and adding a negative which bring the person back to zero, or the place they started from which is positivity. In the end, the positive thinker is not as effected and therefore remains with a positive feeling.
 
If you goal is to to feel good, choosing to see what could be good about each event allows you to feel better about your life, which will in turn give you the power to act with kindness, which more often than not will be reciprocated adding to your feelings of positivity. 
 
In the end, life is a choice. If you want to feel good, choosing to see the good in situation will allow for positive feelings.

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Topics: Positivity, Mindfulness, Life Coaching

Do You Enjoy Hurting Others or Allowing Others to Hurt You?

Posted by Gregg Korrol on May 1, 2018 4:13:04 PM

Odd question, right? The reason I ask is because I noticed how much people complain. Do you have any idea what happens within your body when you’re complaining? 

With any emotion, your body releases chemicals that are either lifting you up (ex: when you exercise or are happy) or putting you down and essentially poisoning you (ex: fear, anger, hate, complaints).  Complaints begin with a negative thought. You think about something, and it stirs up certain emotions (anger, frustration, etc). Once you start spending time focusing on those feelings, the body releases extra cortisol, which activates your “fight or flight system”, and puts you at risk for high cholesterol, diabetes, heart disease, obesity, and strokes.

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Be mindful, the complaint is only the endgame of the thought and the feelings that you’ve already created within yourself. Once you complain, you’re actually starting to reinforce that feeling and encourage it. You then put it out into the world, which affects other people and how they’re feeling (think of how you want to get away from someone who complains a lot).

So in essence what you’re doing by complaining is both hurting yourself and hurting other people. Do you see yourself as a person that likes to harm yourself and others? If not, take steps to shut those negative thoughts down and stop complaining.

3 Quick Tips to Stop Complaining (or stop someone else from complaining)

  1. Refocus your thoughts on something else (or refocus the other person).
  2. Do any type of exercise that exerts your body and releases endorphins.
  3. Take a few deep breaths and take a walk for 5 minutes (step outside, etc)

What solutions do you have to stop yourself from complaining or stop someone else? Please share below.

 

Topics: Relationships, Positivity, Life Coaching, Mindfulness

What Happened To The Party?

Posted by Gregg Korrol on Apr 24, 2018 1:49:28 PM

Last week was my daughter’s ninth birthday. As dedicated parents, we of course made her birthday special with a day off from school, work (for me), balloons, activities, presents, and more!

Birthdays Are So Exciting And Something We All Look Forward To...Until….

What happens to us as we get older? Why do we stop celebrating? Is it that we don’t care because it happens yearly? I don’t think so. I think it comes back to Storytelling. As termed in my book, The Gifted Storyteller, storytelling is when we make a story up in our head, either the way we would like something to happen, or the way we fear something will happen, and then learn reality is very different. 

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We Stop Celebrating As Openly Because We Became Tired Of Being Disappointed

In other words, we had a few birthdays that didn’t turn out the way we had hoped, and to protect ourselves, we decide we won’t make such a big deal about our birthday to make sure the disappointment isn’t as big. Bluntly, expectations not met dull down our happiness. This happens with birthdays, seasons, and other areas of our life, until we reach a point where we just watch time pass, and wonder why everything is moving faster.

But Here’s The Truth…

1) Time isn’t moving faster! You are on autopilot, and not appreciating the gifts all around you. Stop and take in the moments, or smell the roses as the quote goes.

2) Celebrate - all the F#$%^n time! Celebrate your wins, your losses (or should I say your lessons), the fact that you're breathing, the fact that you can read, birds chirping, wind howling, a table you're using, and so on. Celebrate everything so your brain learns to see the celebrations all around you.

3) Remember. Socrates once said, learning is just remembering. Remember who you are, before all the hurt, before all the disappointments, etc.

Look at the world through fresh eyes daily, and in it, you will find what you seek.

 

 

Topics: Mindfulness, Personal Coach, Positivity, Life Coaching

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