Positive thinking is about choice and the desire to feel good through your life. All thinking and decisions are choice. We have the power of choosing how to perceive a situation and from the perception, we then decide how to act.
When an event occurs, we immediately ask ourselves the question, “What does this mean?” Our thinking is layered by our overarching bias towards or against something. So for example, a stranger can give you flowers and your personal story begins to dictate how you will think. You may think, “That’s weird , what does he want from me? Or you may think, “That was very kind of him.”
The question you ask brings about a feeling. The “that’s weird” thought brings about a feeling of fear stemming from distrust, whereas the “kind” comment brings a more pleasant feeling reinforcing a belief in the kindness of strangers. Neither one of thee thoughts are wrong or right, but they do lead to a certain feeling you’ll have as an outcome, which begs the question, ‘How do you want to feel as you go through your day?’
The power of positive thinking and choosing to look at what’s good about a situation allows for a person to have more positive feelings throughout the day. Grant it you can have a positive feeling of “that was nice” and the person really did want something from you, however the person who is thinking more positively is not as effected emotionally by the stranger’s “ask” as the person who was more distrustful. Think about it this way, the person starting with a negative perspective is then adding another negative to their belief (I don’t trust him and he wants something). The positive thinker is starting from a positive and adding a negative which bring the person back to zero, or the place they started from which is positivity. In the end, the positive thinker is not as effected and therefore remains with a positive feeling.
If you goal is to to feel good, choosing to see what could be good about each event allows you to feel better about your life, which will in turn give you the power to act with kindness, which more often than not will be reciprocated adding to your feelings of positivity.
In the end, life is a choice. If you want to feel good, choosing to see the good in situation will allow for positive feelings.