As much as we would love to say parents are equal, we are not. My wife reminded me of this recently during a discussion and I believe she is right.
While men and women may share the responsibility of parenting, the feeling and connection isn’t equal as the baby is an extension of the woman.
Think about it this way. If someone gets hurt, you are (hopefully) going to sympathize with them and feel for them, but you’re not going to feel exactly what they’re feeling because it’s not your body. A baby is a part of a woman’s body. There’s a direct connection as the baby grew inside her and came out of her, hence it’s a more direct connection that she’s going to feel than a man would.
What a man can do to be even more supportive is spend time understanding her journey and feelings as a mother- most specifically the burden of responsibility. Men must learn how to support her in addition to the baby and give her the freedom to have some time as a person, not just a mother.
One excellent strategy is learning how to take things “off her plate.” In other words, what is one thing you can do that she doesn’t have to, so that she can reclaim that time for herself as her own person? Comment below…