I’m often asked what does it mean to accept things. Does it mean disregard your feelings? Does it mean be a doormat for whatever people do and say? Does it mean to just take whatever sh*t is thrown your way?
NO! Not at all. Acceptance is not about any of these things listed above. Acceptance is about seeing things as they are, deciding on a perspective, making a decision, and then taking action.
Notice I said, “Deciding on a perspective.” When something occurs, most people just react. Reaction is what gets people in trouble or causes people to do or say things they regret. When you are present and see the situation as it is (accept), you can pause and decide what the comment means to you, then take action to take control of the situation.
An example is when someone says something offensive to you. A person who does not accept, is reactive and quickly says something back to attack. A person who accepts, first hears the comment, and then takes a moment to decide what the person/comment really means. A person who can accept, knows the person speaking is doing so out of frustration or a need not being met. They know the comment made has nothing to do with them. They are able to then decide what response might yield the best outcome. Perhaps they respond with a joke and bring humor into the mix, perhaps they ask the person why they would say that, perhaps they just smile and let the comment bounce off them like Superman with a bullet.
Which of these two people are more powerful? The one who reacts and is like a dog being pulled on a leash, or the one who makes a choice about their next step? I thin the answer is obvious. Take steps to become more powerful and create the journey you want in your life by accepting what is.
What strategies to do you use to become more present? I would love to know, comment below!