We have all been hurt by people we love. As that hurt grows, we build walls to protect ourselves. So imagine laying a brick for each time you’ve been hurt. Eventually you will succeed at building a wall big enough to protect yourself from the pain of others. I can visualize a person standing and looking up at this great big wall, arms folded, smiling, thinking, “I did it!”
Do you see the problem here?
The wall you built to protect yourself is the same wall that is now your prison and keeps love away from you.
In order to truly love someone, you have to love someone for who they are, not who you want them to be. That doesn’t mean you have to like everything they do. It means you have to accept that they are going to make mistakes and yes sometimes you will get hurt as a result.
So whether you are in a relationship or seeking one, start removing the bricks one by one.
Brick removal secrets: not criticizing, not telling the other person they are wrong, supporting the other person when they mess up, giving extra hugs (even if you don’t feel like it), listening to the other person without thinking about your response, and being present for them.
What are your brick removal secrets in your relationship? Comment below.